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Breaking the Silence: How to Support Your Child Through Bullying

Bullying not only inflicts emotional distress on victims, but takes a heavy toll on the concerned parents as well. A parent's instinct to safeguard their child may drive them to drive headfirst into the issues, but it's crucial to approach this sensitive matter with care. This post seeks to equip parents with valuable insights on supporting their bullied child, instilling resilience, and fostering open communication without exacerbating their fear and anxiety. 

1. Understanding the Situation: 

Take time to listen and empathize with your child's experiences. Allow them to express their emotions and fears without judgment. Assure them that you believe their account and are committed to resolving the issue together. This emotional support demonstrates to your child that their feelings are valid and that they are not alone.

2. Educate Yourself:

Empower yourself by educating yourself about bullying. Research the different types of bullying, strategies employed by bullies, and their long-term effects. This knowledge will enable you to offer guidance and support effectively. 

3. Encouraging Open Communication: 

Create an environment when your child feels comfortable discussing their experiences. Initiate conversations, but avoid pressuring your child. By encouraging them to openly share, they'll know they can rely on you for support and guidance. Ensure they understand that they are not responsible for the bullying, but that you are there to help them navigate through it.

4. Supporting their Self-Esteem:

Bullying can significantly impact a child's self-esteem. Help you child rebuild their self-confidence by involving them in activities or hobbies that they enjoy and excel at. Encourage them to surround themselves with supportive friends who will bolster their courage and resilience. 

5. Collborate with the School: 

Reach out to your child's teacher or school administration to address the bullying. Share specific incidents while avoiding an accusatory tone. Work as a team to develop strategies that can ensure your child's well-being at school while preventing retaliation from bullies. 

6. Teach Assertiveness and Self-Defense: 

Equip your child with assertiveness skills to help them respond powerfully and confidently to bullying. Teach them to stand tall, maintain eye contact, and assertively communicate their boundaries if it safe to do so. Additionally, enrolling them in self-defense classes, can not only boost their self-confidence but provide them the tools to protect themselves physically if necessary.

7. Encourage Emotional Coping Mechanisms:

Share coping mechanisms with your child to help them process their emotions healthily. Suggest outlets such as journaling, engaging in creative activities, or speaking with a trusted friend or counselor. Reinforce the importance of self-care and maintining a healthy support system.

Supporting a child whi is being bullied necessitates empathy, patience and effective communication. By understanding the situation, educating yourself, and fostering open discussions, parents can provide the necessary support with exacerbating their child's fear and anxiety. Remember, your unwavering support plays a significant role in helping your child regain their confidence and face their bullying experinces head-on.

Author
Dr. Muhammad Zeshan Headshot Dr. Muhammad Zeshan My name is Muhammad Zeshan, MD, and I am a Harvard trained infant, child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist at Inside Out, a private practice based in Princeton, New Jersey. I am currently working as an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Rutgers New Jersey Medical School-Newark, New Jersey. Through Inside Out CURE, my focus is to help individuals become more Compassionate, Understanding, and aware of their inner strength and vulnerabilities, while developing Resilience and Empathy. I offer a variety of mental health care services to all age groups (infancy through adulthood) by applying principals of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness, positive psychology, family therapy, parent-child intervention therapy, pharmacology, and neuroscience.

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