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Is a child's misbehavior ever manipulative?

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As a parent, when you aee your child misbehaving, it's easy to jump to conclusions and assume that they're just trying to manipulate you for attention. However, this is not always the case. Misbehavior in children can stem from a variety of reasons and it is important for parents to understand these reasons to handle their children better.

A child's misbehavior can be caused by several things such as develppmental immaturity, communication difficulties, stress and anxiety. For instance, if a child is not yet able to express themselves accurately, they might throw a tantrum out of frustration. Another example is when children face stress and anxiety at school or in the home, they might act out as a reaction to these anxious feelings. 

It is essential to realize that children's behaviors can also be a learned behavior. Children learn through observation, as young people, they will find it hard to differentiate between good and bad behaviors. Thus, if a child constantly witnesses negative behavior, they may replicate as they see it as 'normal.' Couple this with the fact that children are generally curious, this could lead to mischevious and naughty behavior. 

In addition to these factors, it is crucial to note that children's brains are constantly developing and growing. Hence the things that are important to them one day might change the next. That's why patience and positive reinforcement can go a long way in supporting children as they strive to learn and become better versions of themselves. 

In conclusion, misbehavior in children is usually not done on purpose. it is crucial for parents to avoid labeling their kids as 'attention seekers' or 'manipulative'. Instead, it is essential to investigate the root cause of the behavior while finding creative ways to address the underlying issue. Remember to communicate positively with your child and celebrate their good behavior encourage them towards making better choices. 

Author
Dr. Muhammad Zeshan Headshot Dr. Muhammad Zeshan My name is Muhammad Zeshan, MD, and I am a Harvard trained infant, child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist at Inside Out, a private practice based in Princeton, New Jersey. I am currently working as an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Rutgers New Jersey Medical School-Newark, New Jersey. Through Inside Out CURE, my focus is to help individuals become more Compassionate, Understanding, and aware of their inner strength and vulnerabilities, while developing Resilience and Empathy. I offer a variety of mental health care services to all age groups (infancy through adulthood) by applying principals of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness, positive psychology, family therapy, parent-child intervention therapy, pharmacology, and neuroscience.

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