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The Unbreakable Bond: Nurturing Twins as They Embark on Different College Journeys

In life, few connections are as strong as the ones shared by twins. Since the moment they were born, these extrordinary individuals have been linked by an unspoken understanding, an unbreakable bonda forged in the depths of their shared experience. But as their journey takes them to different colleges, parents may worry about this cherished connection suffering a blow. Fear not, dear parents, for the story of these twins has only just begun!

Look back at the remarkable years your've shared as a family. From those earliest moments when their tiny hands instinctively found comfort in each other's touch, to the mischief they cooked up together during their school years - every step has been in perfect tandem. Now, you prepare to release them into the world, it's only natural to fret about them losing their bond when apart. But remember, nurture and support can transcend physical distance. 

It's important to create a solid foundation rooted in the idea that their shared experiences have shaped them into the remarkable individuals they are today. Encourage them to relish their independence while assuring them that this newfound autonomy will only strengthen their bond. Take the time to reminisce about their precious memories together, reinforcing the notion that their connection transcends proximity.

Communication, we're often reminded, is key. Encourage your twins to maintain regular contact through phone calls, video chats, or even written letters - the traditional means of connection. Encourage them to share their hopes, fears and experiences, for these conversations will strengthen their connection and bridge the physical gaps between them.

More than just staying in touch, urge your twins to engage in activities that can be experienced together while apart. Recommend reading the same books, or watching movies and shows simultaneously, discussing their impressions and insights. This shared exploration will foster a sense of closeness, despite the miles between them.

Support your tinws in finding opportunities to visit one another. College breaks, holidays, or even long weekends can provide a chance for reunions, filling their hearts with the joy of rekindling their twinhood. Remind them that life has a habir of providing reunions when least expected, and it will be those moments that will define the essence of their bond.

Ultimately, dear parents, believe in the undeniable strength of the bond your twins share. Trust the values and love you have instilled in them will guide them towards new friendships and experiences, all the while preserving the extraordinary connection they'll forever cherish.

So, as your twins embrak on their separate college journeys, let them know that no matter the distance, their shared path has built an unbreakable bond. Encourage them to embrace their individuality while cherishing the remarkable connection only twins can truly understand. After all, their story is just beginning, and their bond will grow along with them, finding strength in their shared roots, while allowing their wings to spread just a little bit wider. 

Author
Dr. Muhammad Zeshan Headshot Dr. Muhammad Zeshan My name is Muhammad Zeshan, MD, and I am a Harvard trained infant, child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist at Inside Out, a private practice based in Princeton, New Jersey. I am currently working as an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Rutgers New Jersey Medical School-Newark, New Jersey. Through Inside Out CURE, my focus is to help individuals become more Compassionate, Understanding, and aware of their inner strength and vulnerabilities, while developing Resilience and Empathy. I offer a variety of mental health care services to all age groups (infancy through adulthood) by applying principals of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness, positive psychology, family therapy, parent-child intervention therapy, pharmacology, and neuroscience.

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